I hope that you all have been enlightened and informed about NPD Disorder. As we conclude this months topic of NPD with Part 4, really pay attention to the signs in regards to yourself, a friend, family member or even someone that you are dating. In this blog you will read about the next 4 common signs of NPD.
12. Incredibly Charming
Upon first impression, narcissists come off as incredibly charming and confident, but as the relationship develops their behavior becomes demeaning and aggressive, says Van der Linden to Shape magazine. They often seek out positions of power and leadership and will turn on the charm to manipulate others into giving them what they want.
According to WebMD, it’s been proven that people are generally drawn to narcissists because of their confidence and charm. “Most people are drawn to narcissists and find them attractive, charismatic, and exciting. Confidence is charming. And successful leaders are often more assertive and demanding,” says WebMD. This is why they are seemingly quite popular, but in reality, it’s all just a smokescreen.
13. Extremely Competitive
WebMD lists one of the common symptoms of narcissism as wanting to “strive to win, whatever it takes.” To back this claim up, Health.com talked to Joseph Burgo, PhD, a psychotherapist and author, who also says narcissists are obsessed with winning. To someone with NPD, there is no in between — there are only losers and winners. “They have to make themselves out to be superior to somebody else,” he says. Their incessant need to win contributes to their inability to celebrate other people’s success or put themselves in a vulnerable situation where they don’t feel superior to their opponent.
14. Hold Grudges
On the outside, narcissists might seem like they are extremely confident and that they don’t care what others think, but in reality, they are extremely sensitive and care very deeply about “maintaining their idealized image of themselves.” As a result, they don’t take too kindly to any sort of insult or disapproval, says Burgo to Health.com. They end up holding a nasty grudge, because they take criticism as “a personal attack” and “a huge assault.” McBride adds, “If they feel slighted, or abandoned, they don’t get over it.”
15. Don’t Take Criticism Well
Most of us have experienced a time or two when we’ve become frustrated over things not going our way or had a hard time taking criticism from others. It’s natural. We’re only human. But when it comes to a narcissist, their inability to handle fault goes much deeper. They are unable to cope when things don’t go their way and will be hard pressed to ever admit fault when they are wrong which makes it impossible for them to take any kind of criticism, even if it’s constructive.
“Although some narcissists are more introverted, many narcissists react defensively and even aggressively to personal criticism or failures,” says Van der Linden when speaking to Shape. “When confronted with a weakness, even in a neutral way, they can react with sudden and surprising outbursts of yelling, crying, anger, or other aggressive behaviors.”
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