Mindful Confrontation: 9 Steps to Handle Conflict in a Healthy Way Part 4 (by Melissa Eisler)
I must admit. This has been a powerful series and I can’t believe we will be wrapping up our topic about confrontation next week. As we have discovered, there is a healthy way to conduct confrontation either if it is internal or external. However, as you will soon read in the blog below, we can’t just stop there. What about post confrontation? We still need to take inventory afterwards. I believe this is something we should do more often in our everyday lives. We are so programmed to go from one situation to the next, we skip a necessary part for growth and development.
One question I liked that the blogger asked was, “Is there anything unfinished about this confrontation? If so what do I need to do about it? Somethings are not “one and done.” Maybe the confrontation you are dealing with is going to take time. Don’t feel like you have to accomplish or work through the confrontation in one sitting. Be open to continuing the matter or taking time to work through your own personal issues. Having healthy confrontation is not a rush to the finish line.
Lets learn how to remove those unnecessary pressures so that we can have meaningful solutions and results. We all know how it feels to rush into something or out of something. No matter how much of an expert we are, somethings just take time.
Like I said last week, “The next time you have to deal with confrontation, be it internal or external, I want you to refer back to this series and say, “I got this!”
This week we are dealing with Part Four of our series! We are discussing, After Confrontation. Don’t rush through the list, but really utilize it going forward. I believe as we continue to mature in this matter, we will be able to attest to healthier confrontations.
Enjoy the blog below:
After your confrontation, it’s a good idea to assess how the confrontation went by asking yourself some questions. This isn’t meant to be an exercise in judging yourself, but rather an opportunity to learn how to improve your handling of confrontation in the future. Ask yourself the following questions:
How do I feel now?
Was I able to take care of myself? If not, what got in my way?
Did I say what I wanted to say? If not, what was left unsaid?
How would I do things differently if I had another chance?
Is there anything unfinished about this confrontation? If so, what do I need to do about it?
What have I learned from this confrontation that I could apply to another one?
What am I proud of?
Overall, everyone needs feedback, and healthy, mindful confrontation allows for two people to close the gap and find a resolution to problems. Often, mindful confrontation can result in closer connections with others.
So when the situation calls for it, exercise your confrontation muscles, and you will create powerful connections with yourself and others.
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